Remember the first time you fell in love? Nothing else mattered! Because for the moment, love made it all disappear.

Life would be simpler if we could lie down and wait for a magical kiss — or even one of Cupid’s arrows — and then walk off into the sunset and live happily ever after. I had my heart set on something more closely resembling that than what I got; but as it turns out, simpler isn’t better.

Along the way, I’ve had my share (OK, more than my share) of magical kisses, arrows and sunsets. There’s a lot of ground between those and happily ever after, though, and it’s under-covered in love stories.

Chances are, the first time you “fell in love” is really the first time you got infatuated. And infatuation is irrational and short-lived!

It feels bigger than life, though, like the moon and the stars, and everything you ever wished for all wrapped up in a titillating package that you can actually get your arms around! Well, temporarily.

When infatuation strikes, it’s generally unfounded; so, unless you move quickly to put a foundation under it, it fizzles. And, let’s face it, you’re way too busy making googly eyes to build a foundation.… More

I spoke with a customer support rep in India yesterday. I could barely understand his English, and I thought it would be so much easier if I could just talk to somebody who spoke MY language! Customer service issues are great lessons in Love School, because we’re already vulnerable to frustration.

That’s often the case in our relationships, as well! And we react to a partner much the same way! Without realizing it, we may think it would be so much easier if they just spoke our language, if they just understood what we were saying, because we’re pretty convinced we’re right. But the problem may not be their language or lack of understanding. The problem may be our own faulty perception that the differences interfere with reaching the common goal!

And that’s exactly what I realized during my conversation with Monage yesterday! I explained it to him; and I think he understood. It doesn’t matter, though. He was perfectly competent to help me. And I owned my lesson out loud. … More

Don’t dismiss what you or your partner feels when you’re tired, hungry, or hormonal. It’s okay to cut each other some slack; but distress is a window into the unconscious! So, use what surfaces in distress as an opportunity to heal what hurts … and it won’t hurt anymore! … More