For the longest time, I didn’t understand how Sam (my husband) could call an action movie mindless and relaxing. I could enjoy watching them; but they seemed anxious and intense to me. I finally got it. The hero always wins! And the drama is staged, unrealistic. No worries–only the bad guy gets hurt.
And guess what? Sam lives his life like he’s the hero! He doesn’t know what comes next. He trusts it! And mostly, he’s relaxed.
PS: Listen to your partner. Ask questions until you understand, rather than assume you can’t! Voice of experience here.