The challenge is not to know the truth, but to face the truth. The truth is like love. It’s always there! But FACING it often means facing what we’ve worked hard to mask. You know that almost-apology you sometimes offer–or get–“I’m sorry IF I was wrong”? It’s a perfect example of bypassing the truth, while easing the conscience just enough to stay comfortable. If you have an image of yourself as kind, you may not want to admit to a sweetheart (or anybody else) that you were, in fact, unkind. Ugh, then you’d have to look at the anger and resentment that triggered your unkind behavior. You’d have to admit that you ARE angry and resentful. And delving into “why” feels like way too much work and way too much confession! It’s the REASON for your anger and resentment that you’ve worked so hard to cover up.
You’re angry because … You resent your partner, your job, your weight, or whatever because … For now an almost-apology tempered by some blame or an excuse keeps you in your comfort zone and maintains your self-image. Ah, but it also keeps you trapped in your own little prison.
You want to be free.… More