Great things can happen when you’re in control; but magic only happens when you’re not! … More
We want to be loved down to the core, by somebody who knows every chink in our armor; but it may not occur to us that we must REMOVE the armor! We must face our wounded nakedness before we can actually share it, to feel thoroughly known and loved. We must also tend the wounds, beneath those chinks, in order to heal them. If we conceal anything at all, we don’t feel unconditionally loved. Many assume that you can’t tell a partner everything; but unless you do, you undermine love. What you have (or seem to have) is a facade; because intimacy, a connection based on what you know, is the foundation for authentic love. The more naked the knowledge, the deeper the connection, the roots, the foundation.
We are accustom to the armor, though. When we realized we were separate from Mother, and that she wouldn’t always be there, we learned to survive independent of her. That meant latching on to what was within our reach and, unfortunately, we embraced some false beliefs and self-destructive habits! We still abide by coping mechanisms that kept us alive and presumably sane, but no longer serve us. We defend our beliefs and our behavior, plugging holes in our armor, with distorted-as-necessary evidence.… More
The fairytale is a JOURNEY; and to live it requires deep KNOWING and BEING. To understand the fairytale is a start. To feel it is a step. To believe in it is a step. To practice it is a step. To persist in it is enough.
But when you think you have arrived, well, you’re wrong! … More
You know how you immediately connect with some people? It’s because you feel accepted enough to just be yourself. Well, you can carrry that freedom with you! You don’t have to wait for somebody else to accept you; you can accept yourself.
You can feel as comfortable on a first date as you feel with you! … More
When you’re afraid to go for the relationship you want, you settle for less—maybe a mediocre relationship; maybe a more immediate form of gratification, like food or drugs; maybe escape in work or chronic pain. Are you using a substitute for what you really want? … More
You must change your behavior to change your results. But how, when a whopping 98% of all brain activity is completely unconscious? Tap into the treasure house of insight in the unconscious mind, and learn to make more conscious–more loving–choices! … More