From a reader:
I am a 46-year-old man who has been divorced for almost four years, with part-time custody of my 8-year-old daughter. I am getting discouraged with the whole dating thing and do not want just a casual affair. I am handsome, caring, professional, artistic, funny, handy, intelligent, I cook, and I truly care about other people. I know this may come across as arrogant, but I am truly not.
I can’t seem to meet someone I can have a meaningful relationship with. I am not super-picky, I just want someone who takes care of herself, is moral, enjoys life, has no addictions and can give and receive love. I think this is pretty basic stuff.
It consistently appears to me that if you treat women with somewhat neglect, they want you. Treat them with respect and romance, and it sends them packing. …I make a strong effort not to come on too strong within the first few months of a relationship.
A friend of mine who is female said that I scare women off because I seem too good to be true. What do you think is my problem?
Expensive cars, powerful jobs, and I-can-have-anybody-I-want attitudes get a woman’s attention, much the way red lips and exposed curves get a man’s.… More