There was never a way to get “there” without taking the steps between here and there. And when we realize that each step prepares us for the next, we can celebrate each of them. … More
Dear Heart …
When we chase two rabbits, one gets away. Two of our favorites to chase are Intimacy and Sex. Intimacy most likely gets away. Sex is easier to catch. We can’t hold on to it for long, but it hops about for the occasional romp.
And in the meantime, we find other alluring rabbits to pursue–Big Bucks, Pretty Hare, Smarty Britches, Mister Muscle, and Chocolate Mousse. Before it’s over, we may chase a whole field of rabbits, and even get our arms around some of them. Muscle and Mousse are definitely at odds, though. And no matter how big or how many, they leave us hungry.
The one rabbit that can satiate our being is Authentic Love. And Authentic Love, the most precious rabbit of all, isn’t running. It’s nesting inside of us. … More
Relationship Theory Simplified:
The Reward Theory of Attraction Says:
We are most attracted to those who give us maximum rewards at minimum cost to us. And four of the most compelling sources of reward are:
Proximity: Frequent contact predicts closeness.
Similarity: Shared attitudes, interests, values and experiences are rewarding.
Self-disclosure: Intimate sharing builds trust and allows us to know each other.
Physical attractiveness: We find beauty rewarding.
But the Expectancy-Value Theory says:
We weigh the value of the reward against our expectation of success in a relationship.
Don’t get scared and underestimate your ability to succeed in the relationship of your dreams. It’s your destiny … that’s MY theory!… More
Let’s shine our light …
I marvel at the perfection of this plan. When we choose love over fear, we light the darkness.… More
Real love frees us to love …
I hope you love me. But if you don’t, I still do. And … I still love you, just as I love myself.… More
Life on love …
Three friends spreading their wings, on a walk with love, water, and swings … these are a few of my favorite things.… More
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