We’re still holding on to a security blanket that we needed as a child. It no longer serves us. And we can let go, but only after we have identified it consciously.… More
Until we have learned to love ourselves unconditionally, we may imagine God to love us only if we meet certain conditions. We may fashion Him after our fears, as a father who gets angry when we stumble, and as one who would punish us from that anger.
But God is not fashioned after our fears. Rather, we are fashioned after His spirit.
God made us lovable. And He gave us the privilege of freewill. We continually choose to be true to fear or to spirit. … More
We hide what we fear will be rejected, and present what we hope will win approval. We may create a beautiful facade, but we know that’s what it is. We still long to be known and loved for who we really are.
And when we find the courage to let go of the acceptable, we unveil the sacred.
We were always lovable. … More
A couple of years ago, I accidentally found e-mails that my husband was sending to an old girlfriend he wanted to meet up with. He told her a ton of lies about our relationship. I confronted him, and everything has been going OK.
But now he is meeting women online and talking “personal” talk to them. He sits in the living room with me and talks to them. When I ask who he is talking to, he lies. I know, because I have the passwords for his accounts and can see what is being said.
I don’t know what to do. We have been married 12 1/2 years. I still love him and I forgave him; however, I don’t trust him anymore and I am scared that he is going to find someone else and leave.
Can you please give me some advice as to what I can do to help us reconnect and save our marriage?
A: The first step is to talk with your husband in a totally open way, the way you might talk to me or to a best friend.… More