When you’re afraid to go for the relationship you want, you settle for less—maybe a mediocre relationship; maybe a more immediate form of gratification, like food or drugs; maybe escape in work or chronic pain. Are you using a substitute for what you really want? … More
You must change your behavior to change your results. But how, when a whopping 98% of all brain activity is completely unconscious? Tap into the treasure house of insight in the unconscious mind, and learn to make more conscious–more loving–choices! … More
Don’t let “I already know that” keep you from learning the truth. Until you’re LIVING the truth, you have more to learn. And much of what you need to know may be in your unconscious mind, where you’ve stored false beliefs that keep you stuck. Don’t be afraid to look at what’s there; it’s part of the path to manifesting the truth. You have to identify and remove the old programming, before you can ACT on the new programming. And you can do that! Love can do that! … More
You’ve never seen him (or her) before — the guy across the room smiling at you. And he’s hot, not because he has a chiseled jaw or even a full head of hair, but because he’s unabashedly looking at what he likes. You! Now what?
If you’re not in a relationship, you can’t wait to find out! If you are in a relationship, this is a test. How strong is your commitment, the thing that keeps you faithful?
You are likely to stay committed as long as you think you can get more of what you want where you are than you could get elsewhere; and you’re likely to break your commitment if you decide you can get more of what you want some place else. So, what do you want? Chances are, neither a chiseled jaw nor hot sex is at the top of your list. Knowing what IS on your list — as well as his — can keep you both satisfied, rather than feeling stuck. It’s not just a matter of staying or knowing that you will; it’s a matter of knowing that you want to.
You don’t commit once and for all; you are continually choosing.
And commitment is a two-edged sword.… More
Whether I write about breaking up or compatibility or communication, it always comes down to the same thing — know and love who you are; so that you can share all of you with enthusiasm and be at peace, regardless of the outcome. It makes sense, then, that the title of my last book is “Innately Good…dispelling the myth that we’re not.”
When we spend enough quality time to get to know who we are, we realize how wonderfully made we are! But that means stopping the busyness, all the excuses we find not to be alone with ourselves, and all of our efforts to make ourselves good enough — with another promotion, a bigger house, a trip, even meeting the needs of others, so that we don’t have to face our own. The reason we’re so busy is that we can’t get enough of whatever we fill our lives up with, to make us happy. We keep adding more and more and more.
When we break away from the treadmill, we find out that everything we were looking for — nothing more than happiness, really — was right there within us all along. The only way to be happy is to be true to what’s inside.… More
The most important thing you can do on a date (before or after marriage) is connect. Make it your priority–do it before you sit down to a seven-course dinner, watch a movie, or exhaust yourself. Look into each other’s eyes, talk from the deepest place inside of you, share what you’re afraid to share, frolic, kiss, snuggle, and be still. Connect! … More