I’m so grateful for this truth: Our peace and joy are determined by how we respond to what is imposed on us. … More
Dear Friends … What do you run to?
You know how sometimes you feel inferior, or even inept … and then you console yourself with the fact that you are attractive, or financially secure, or intelligent, or something? That something is your false sense of security. And while it may be perfectly viable, it is NOT what makes everything okay. It is not what makes you okay.
And as long as we’re holding on to something that pacifies us, we miss out on what would truly satisfy our longing to simply be. We want to be enough, without meeting, and maintaining, some arbitrary standard. We want to be enough, without holding a shield to protect our self. And we are! We just haven’t let our guard down long enough to know that. We haven’t let go of the pacifier long enough to know that we don’t need it!
And letting go of our false sense of security is prerequisite to embracing the greatness within that can’t be measured, the greatness that is our birthright, the greatness that soars above our wild-ass dreams.
Let’s trust the only thing that’s real, the only thing we’re born with and die with. Love.
You are that!… More
Eight Types of Love: One is “perfect”!
“How could he … he said he loved me,” she eked out between sobs. Do you feel more empathy for the guy who changed his mind, or the girl left trying to reconcile the guy’s words with his actions?
Male or female, you’ve probably been smitten and thought you were in love, only to decide it could never work. Our emotions — which we expect to waver — prioritize different thoughts at different times, sometimes dragging our intellects on an emotional roller coaster.
There’s more to it than that, though. There’s what you mean by “I love you,” and what somebody else thinks you mean.
There are eight types of love, according to Robert J. Sternberg, noted psychologist and Professor of Human Development at Cornell University. Only one of them is perfect, but they’re all formed by the following three dimensions of love:
Intimacy: Psychological knowledge of each other and connection based on that knowledge
Passion: Erotic attraction
Commitment: The decision that a person loves another person and the commitment to maintain that love
The classic misunderstanding immediately jumps out at us: He gets caught up in erotic attraction and says, “I love you.” She thinks somebody finally understands her and wants to spend the rest of his life with her.… More
I can choose peace …
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Growing into …
Love has nothing to prove. And neither do you! You’re free to be you. The next time you’re on a date–even if it’s with your spouse–make sure the person you present is the real you. Let them get to know you; that’s an ongoing process. Remember, you can’t feel loved if you’re shielded by shiny armor (that could look like a padded wallet, pretty words, or a fake laugh).
I’m not suggesting that you blast anybody with your anger or intolerance. That’s your ego! In fact, any negative emotion, or argument, is birthed by “I’m not good enough.” You are!
When you express your true feelings, your discomfort, and your dreams, you are refreshed and refueled … instead of drained! You are also loved. Because YOU are lovable. Grow out of your comfort zone and into yourself.
Don’t just live. Thrive!… More
Bringing destiny and choice together …
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