Love has no agenda …

Are you in love with him/her?

Somebody asked that I explain the difference between being in love and loving. Maybe being in love is simply wanting to spend the rest of your life and share your bed with somebody you truly love!

And to truly love somebody is to know them to the core and respect them for who they are–not what they have, not what they have done, and not what they can offer you. It is to want their highest good, regardless of how you fit into that. It is to accept them unconditionally, to trust them with the truth, the whole truth. It is to care for them and respond to their needs, from desire, rather than obligation. To love somebody is to trust who they are, even when past performance demonstrates a lack of learning. It is to hold somebody tenderly when they need it, without being afraid to kick them in the butt when they need it. To love somebody is to tune into them on a deep level, to see, and hear, and understand who they are, and who they are still becoming.… More

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To be present is to be present with love …

When I am present, I am free of fear; in this moment, there is nothing to regret or worry about.

There is only fear and love; and fear is an illusion. Freedom from the illusion is here and now. … More

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It cannot be chained to the temporal …

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Women DON’T Want a Coward!

Men—and even women—have struggled for centuries to figure out what women want. It’s easier to tell you what they don’t want!

Women don’t want a coward. And the rest is up for grabs; it depends on the woman and her preferences. I know, that’s an unsophisticated response to Freud’s: “Despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, I have not been able to answer … the great question that has never been answered: What does a woman want?”

Stay with me, though. If a man’s courageous, he’s not intimidated by a woman’s intelligence. He appreciates her intuition. He’s not threatened by her emotions, however cyclical; and he’s not embarrassed by his own. He’s strong and vulnerable. He’s true to himself … and that means, according to Shakespeare, he’s true to her.

I could probably rest my case now; but as a woman, I like to talk, and I love to be heard.

We’re familiar with rejection in the context of sales, right? There’s even a story about a new-hire to sell life insurance. He was offered one dollar for every time somebody turned him down. With nothing to lose and a dollar to gain, he fearlessly approached as many prospects as he could.… More