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Find "The One," or I'll Refund Your Money!

And I’ve never been so excited about any program, ever!

I know the science, the art, and the spirit of love more than I ever have … and I’m more certain than I’ve ever been of what it takes for you to live your fairytale. Don’t get soft on me, though; the fairytale is a pilgrimage to love. And while I will guide you to the sunrise of a new beginning, you have to follow my lead.

You don’t have to invite me to the wedding … but you could invite me to perform the ceremony!

What makes me so bold now? Click to Read More

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Know people …

When we focus on what’s lacking in another, we reinforce their fear of not being good enough.

But when we know and love what is sacred in another, we help them to see it, to nurture it, and to grow into the fullness of who they are. … More

Do you have the BASIS for a relationship?

Five areas of intimacy work together to determine how compatible you are with a partner and what “BASIS” you have for a satisfying relationship:

B-ehavioral

A-ffective

S-piritual

I-ntellectual

S-exual

Behavioral:
Do you like to do the same things? Do you have similar levels of motivation/energy?

Affective (or Emotional):
How much of yourself and your emotions can you put out there, and still feel safe and accepted?

Spiritual:
Do you share similar values and agree on a reason to live by them.

Intellectual:
Can you have intellectually stimulating conversation, about more than one subject?

Sexual:
How connected do you feel sexually–even when you’re not having sex?

Adapted from the work of Michael Murphy, a psychologist at the University of Florida.

Assess Your Intimacy

Ideally, how much does each area contribute to a satisfying relationship for YOU? For your partner? Assign a percentage to each area, so that the sum of the five is 100. And ask your partner to do the same.

Behavioral

Affective

Spiritual

Intellectual

Sexual
__________

100

How much intimacy do you have with your partner? Rate each area on a scale of one to ten (one being low, ten being high). Ask your partner to do the same. Then, compare notes.… More