She said the words, without realizing their significance, during a weekend retreat designed to help her and her husband restore intimacy. Women want to be sexually desired. It’s in their genes. And for the most part, they work at it.
So, when men don’t demonstrate their longing, women can be sorely disappointed.
What many women don’t seem to understand is that men are also turned on by their partner’s yearning … and this can be particularly true in a committed relationship, in which the man is foregoing the variety he’s biologically driven to seek out.
So, what happens when both partners develop a take-it-or-leave-it attitude about sex? Right — they don’t have it very often. And their desire continues to wane.
If your partner no longer seems sexually attracted to you, your ego alone offers you reason enough to be nonchalant. Smile. And, yes, your nonchalance (like his) can be a big turn off. And the hard-to-get strategy can be downright ineffective played amidst the daily grind, breeding more resentment than desire.
If you want your partner to demonstrate heated desire, demonstrate your own.… More