You can sift them through love one at a time. Love’s honesty will filter the blame. Love’s light will transform judgement into understanding and acceptance. Love’s hope will catch the doubt, it’s accountability will check complacency, it’s compassion will ease the pain.
And when you keep your life full of love, there is no room for even a “little” nagging to settle in.
Love won’t make you compatible; but it will give compatibility a chance!