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I love him? I love him not? You know the truth. Don’t be afraid of it.

We’ve all felt the torment of, “He loves me, he loves me not.” Sometimes we get so caught up in that refrain that we fail to objectively consider our own feelings.

Your love and desire aren’t contingent on his (or hers). And it’s much easier to know what’s in your heart than it is to know what’s in somebody else’s.

Even when we’re torn from one moment to the next, the answer is there. Sometimes we just don’t want to see the answer that’s spelled out in front of us.

If you’re struggling to decide — to date or not to date, to break-up or not, to get married or not — try the following:

~ Ask YOURSELF the question. Don’t get sidetracked trying to second guess what somebody else thinks or wants, and don’t take the easy way out by making somebody else responsible for choosing. Remember that it takes two, though.

~ Ask what you want to do — not what you should do.

~ Ask how you would counsel a friend struggling to answer the question. This allows you to stand back and be objective.… More

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Something that makes us feel happy, safe, cared about, connected? Something we saw in a movie or in the happily-ever-after of a fairy-tale sunset, something we heard in a song, something somebody told us we would find someday? Something that satisfies a biological need? All of the above!

We want somebody to eat the pizza with, process the movie with, stand speechless with, wake up with, die with. We want somebody to call when our flight’s delayed, somebody to answer the phone before we spend a night in jail.

We want somebody to know who we are, what we’re truly about … in a world that often looks right through us. We want somebody to see us glisten in the moonlight. We want to be valued. We want to be loved … unconditionally.… More