Love has no agenda …

Dear Friends,

It’s easy to fall into making your partner’s behavior about you. But it’s not about you. And when we truly love somebody, we want them to be nice for their sake, not for ours. We want them to grow for their sake, not ours. And … we want them to know and understand us for their sake, not ours.

And, if your partner is to know and understand you, he/she must first know and understand himself. He can only love you as well as he loves himself.

And by simply loving a sweetheart unconditionally, we give him a safe place to discover his authentic self. When he begins to know the wonder of him, he also begins to know the wonder of you, and how truly lovable you both are.

So, let’s not stop at wanting a partner to love us better. Let’s help him to love himself better!… More

If you want to order the cheapest thing on the menu or take a budget vacation, go ahead; but don’t resort to practical wishes. What do you really want for Christmas?

Now, tell him/her, tell everybody. But don’t depend on anybody else to deliver it.

I remember finally realizing that it was okay to buy myself jewelry, after falling for the fallacy that somebody else was supposed to buy it for me … because they thought I deserved it. Well, guess what? You deserve it, whether he knows it or not; and he’s unlikely to know it before you do.

We’re not talking about entitlement or arrogance. We’re talking about realizing who you are; and connecting with your wishes is a beautiful way to catch a glimpse of the real you! When you trade your dream for what somebody else thinks of you, or what somebody else can afford, or what somebody else customarily picks out for you, you get a distorted view of YOU.

Pretend you have a fairy godmother who’s ready to make an appearance, which means you’re ready for her to make an appearance! A fairy godmother is nothing more than you coming to your own rescue. Now, look through her eyes at you.… More