SHORTCUT to knowing how well he/she will love you: Look at how well he loves himself–not how well he appears to love his mother, his kids, or anybody else. If he does more for others than he does for himself, what he does is tainted (perhaps by obligation, agenda, guilt, or desire to escape his own needs). How well does he love himself? Does he show respect for his body, mind, and spirit? Does he nurture all three of them? Does he respond to his own needs? He can only love you as well as he loves himself!