It’s true that we can get so consumed by a relationship that we don’t seem to have time for anything else. And we can get so caught up in pleasing a partner that we lose sight of our own needs and desires. We forget who we are.
BUT in a healthy relationship, both individuals have a safe place to probe deeper into who they are, to know and share more substance. They have a safe place to be vulnerable, to face their fears, to overcome their fears, and grow into a purer, fuller version of their authentic self.
And in doing so, they purify their love for each other. They keep their interaction alive and dynamic.