Attunement?

To get the unconditional love and attunement* you long for from a partner, give it to yourself. Your partner will follow.

*Attunement: The state (or process) of being tuned into. Being in harmony, a feeling of being at one. A baby has attunement with his mother, when she tunes into him and responds to his needs, his cries, his expressions, his sighs, and his smiles.