Do you like to do the same things? Do you have similar levels of motivation/energy?
Affective (or Emotional):
How much of yourself and your emotions can you put out there, and still feel safe and accepted?
Do you share similar values and agree on a reason to live by them.
Can you have intellectually stimulating conversation, about more than one subject?
How connected do you feel sexually–even when you’re not having sex?
Adapted from the work of Michael Murphy, a psychologist at the University of Florida.
Assess Your Intimacy
Ideally, how much does each area contribute to a satisfying relationship for YOU? For your partner? Assign a percentage to each area, so that the sum of the five is 100. And ask your partner to do the same.
How much intimacy do you have with your partner? Rate each area on a scale of one to ten (one being low, ten being high). Ask your partner to do the same. Then, compare notes.