How do kids fit into the fairytale?

Kids can be consuming. How do you maintain a relationship and take care of a family, too?

Getting married and having a family may be the dream, but the reality can feel like an alarm clock that won’t stop. It helps to think of the alarm clock as a call to the intimacy that everyday life affords us.

We see the sleeping faces, we hear the sweet sighs and the cries for help. We see a partner at the end of the day–before and after unwinding. And we have a chance to better know and understand each other.

That’s intimacy! And it breeds acceptance … unless you allow it to breed resentment, instead.

If you and your partner work as a parenting team, you get to know each other in that context, as well. You can appreciate each others strengths and weaknesses, without resenting either one. You can recognize and appreciate what each of you contributes to the family.

You can feel completely seen and known. You can feel loved to the core. And THAT is the fairytale.

If you make it that far, you will want to make time for your relationship as a couple … and you will.