Being true to ourselves, while honoring the one we love, is an ongoing choice. We continually balance meeting our own needs with responding to the needs of the one we love. And unless we meet our own needs FIRST, we have compromised our ability to see and respond to our sweetheart’s needs. We have also compromised our peace, our joy, and our health!
We can’t tune into a partner’s needs and respond to them to the best of our ability, if WE are chronically “hungry.” It may seem easier to provide what a sweetheart needs than to assess our own needs and meet them, but that doesn’t mean it truly serves us–or our partner.
And the longer we choose “easy,” the tougher it is to break the habit. We can do it, though; and we can ask our sweetheart for help. A partner who loves us wants us to be the best we can be–even if it means less immediate gratification for them.
When we step back and look at the big picture, it can be more apparent what serves the highest good, not just for today, but for a lifetime.