Jan Denise, author, speaker, relationships & self-worth consultant

This Valentine’s Day, no matter where you are — on the fence, fizzling out, stuck on the surface or alone — I have practical tips for you. Of the lists below, find the one that suits you.

Are you trying to decide if he (or she) is not that into you? Before you break the bank or take time off from work to try harder, he’s probably not that into you if:

1. He’s not that into himself. And you can tell how into himself he is by how well he knows himself — not how arrogant he is.
2. He doesn’t know who you are — not what you do for a living or a list of facts — what’s important to you, what you stand for, and what you’re passionate about.
3. He doesn’t respect you for who you are.
4. He’s more interested in what you do together than just spending time together.
5. He talks to you but doesn’t listen to you or listens to you but doesn’t talk to you.
6. He doesn’t introduce you to his family and friends or take you to his office party.
7. He spends money freely on himself but skimps on you.… More

May we speak, march, legislate, and live in love, THE force for everything good.

Love is what we have in common. It doesn’t divide us. It unifies us. It doesn’t create chaos. It creates peace. It doesn’t restrict us. It frees us. But we must trust love enough to follow it through division, through chaos, and through restriction. Our greatest challenge is not to align somebody else’s behavior with our own, but rather, in the face of their behavior, to align our own with love. … More