We are most attracted to those who give us maximum rewards at minimum cost to us. And four of the most compelling sources of reward are:
Proximity: Frequent contact predicts closeness.
Similarity: Shared attitudes, interests, values and experiences are rewarding.
Self-disclosure: Intimate sharing builds trust and allows us to know each other.
Physical attractiveness: We find beauty rewarding.
But the Expectancy-Value Theory says we weigh the value of the reward against our expectation of success in a relationship.
Don’t get scared and underestimate your ability to succeed in the relationship of your dreams. It’s your destiny … that’s MY theory!