Love has no agenda …

When we know what the first step is, we don’t have to worry about the next one. It’ll be there. And we don’t have to wonder if it’ll be doable. We’ll be ready for it. What we CAN do will always be enough.

As we step out of our comfort zone, we step into the anything’s-possible zone. All it takes is one step to create the next one.

When we can see all the steps, the walk can be predictable, even beautiful. But when we walk in faith, we invite the impossible. And the impossible shows up–less predictable and more beautiful.

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Are you and your partner in sync? Do you work, eat and sleep at the same times? You might look at celebrities and long-distance partners and wonder how they do it, but maybe you could just as viably wonder how you do it. That is, if you were objective.

If you were a therapist on the wall in your kitchen, living room and bedroom, what in the world would you be thinking?
You’ve seen the ongoing analysis of famous couples walking down the sidewalk. How he holds her hand, how she holds her purse–everything means something. And nobody’s in a better position than you are to observe your behavior.

How often do you actually walk down the sidewalk together? How often are you in the same room together? How often do you look into each other’s eyes? Touch each other? Compliment each other? Nag each other?

If your initial observations (as an objective party on the wall) raise concern, start making changes, simple changes that seem like no-brainers from a distance. Schedule dinner at the same time every night. It doesn’t matter how often you actually eat at 7, what matters is that you have a date — to keep or reschedule!… More

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It’s amazing what happens when ego doesn’t get in the way of our relationships! We don’t have to be right. We work as a team, and let individual differences strengthen the team, rather than weaken it. We say fewer words trying to prove something or one-up each other. We drop the facade. We are more productive.

We learn and grow. We are better students and better teachers.
We are more honest with ourselves and each other. We are more tolerant, compassionate, and forgiving. We are less anxious, less stressed, more self-assured, more clear, and more responsible.
We know peace and harmony, within and without.

We are fearless. We are whole, because love is.… More

We hear a lot about how to maintain romance in a relationship. It’s mostly a matter of intrigue. And if we continue to grow, we also provide intrigue, for ourself and our partner. But let’s not forget how satisfying it is to come home to intimacy that’s constant and reassuring, while being seriously authentic. Passion without intimacy falls short. We can have both. … More