Love has no agenda …

Rediscover your sparkle … and let the fireworks begin!

Want a clean slate for Christmas?

Trying to decide between a beach getaway and a stocking full of coal for your sweetheart? Why not give him a clean slate, instead? Wipe away the black marks and start fresh, aiming — once again — for perfect love. Only this time, do it with perfect love in clear view. Know what you’re going for, and you have a better shot at it.

According to Robert J. Sternberg, a psychologist and psychometrician, perfect love is a high level of intimacy, passion, and commitment.

Intimacy: Psychological knowledge shared, and connection based on that knowledge
Passion: Erotic attraction
Commitment: The decision that a person loves another person and the commitment to maintain that love

It’s difficult to have a high level of even one of the three if you focus on how you’ve been wronged or shortchanged; and each one works to strengthen or weaken the other two. Wiping the slate clean, on the other hand, allows you to immediately enjoy what ever level you already have and develop more of it.

I realize that a clean slate isn’t exactly something you can order online, but Christmas isn’t really about what you can have somebody else deliver. Christmas is about giving of what you have, so give yourself a clean slate.… More

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Dear Friends … the answer is here

The answer has been provided. Our part is choosing to believe it, embrace it, act on it, and LIVE it. The answer is always the same, love, no matter the question or the problem. But sometimes we forget that embracing love requires that we choose love over what we’re holding on to, instead. The answer most often appears in an opportunity to learn how to provide what we want. So when manna doesn’t drop from the sky, look for an opportunity to create your own manna.

If I want healing, I must choose to change my habits. That’s what love looks like.

“Healing is a choice. It’s not an easy one because it takes work to turn around your habits. But keep making the choice and shifts will happen,” Yehuda Berg.

To choose love is to learn to align with love. And I delight in the truth that the answer always lies in doing what we can. We don’t reach peace by making the best manna ever, we reach peace by simply doing what we can in love.

What a beautiful season it is to be grateful for what we have, to use what we have, rather than wishing for more.… More

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