The most important thing you can do on a date (before or after marriage) is connect. Make it your priority–do it before you sit down to a seven-course dinner, watch a movie, or exhaust yourself. Look into each other’s eyes, talk from the deepest place inside of you, share what you’re afraid to share, frolic, kiss, snuggle, and be still. Connect! … More
When we have a desire, we want something. When we have an intention, we intend to have what we want. And when we intend to have it, we live life as though we will have it. If we only want something, we may intend to go on wanting it indefinitely. We may go through the motions of doing something about our desire only to relieve our sense of obligation to do something, with no real intention of ever satisfying our desire.
If we want something and we don’t intend to have it, chances are we have conflicting desires or limiting beliefs.
Maybe you want to lose ten pounds and you also want to continue to eat as much as you’re eating now. Hmmm … looking honestly at both of your desires allows you to see an option you may have missed. And the option to burn more calories — rather than eat fewer calories — may spur an intention.
Maybe you want to get along with your sweetheart and you also want to make him see how wrong he is.… More
When I have learned to love myself, I can truly love another, without using him to meet my own needs. When I have faced my own open wounds and my own scars, and known both “weakness” and strength side-by-side in me, I can love another completely and unconditionally, without judging him. … More
We can choose to transcend differences using love, or inflate them using fear. How big are your differences? … More
We can tell what we’re ready for by what comes our way. And instead of lamenting what’s presented — because we were hoping for something “more” — we can be grateful for what is. When we appreciate what is, embrace it, and learn from it, we ready ourselves for what will be.
You may want your prince to show up with a kiss that magically transforms your life, but the prince isn’t going to show up until the princess is ready. Cinderella had to sweep a lot of floors and do a lot of soul searching before she got to dance with the prince … and then she had to let go of him at midnight. Only then, were they united in an ongoing dance of the heart.
So when you encounter still another floor to sweep, sweep well. When you’re challenged to search your soul and purge another layer of fear, purge well. When you encounter a beautiful human being who’s not your prince (or princess), love well.
Take joy in what is! Don’t try to squeeze yourself or somebody else into an ill-founded script. Play the role of you, stark naked you. And when you’re playing it well, your prince (or princess) will show up.… More
A relationship is work; but if I allow enough time and energy for the work, it feels like the most rewarding of all work! If not, it just feels like a bad investment! Give it all you’ve got! … More