Yesterday morning at 2:15 I was on my way to pick up a friend and deliver her to the Atlanta airport to make a fresh start. And I thought getting up at 1:30 was the most loving thing I would do all day.
But on the way home, I visited my mom. I think it was a tie.
Life is grand!
And if you missed me online yesterday, now you know why. … More
So grateful for a lovely visit with my mom yesterday in Ashburn, GA. I would have been content with a chance to give her an “I love you” and a hug. But I sat on the edge of her bed, so she could look straight at me, and we talked for about two hours. She was in good spirits and seemed so comfortable and at ease. Sometimes she’s reluctant for me to make the long drive, knowing that she might not feel up to much of a visit.
As you can imagine, our conversation meandered … and it was so pleasant. She commented, as she has before, that I quoted a lot of “other” people in my second book “Innately Good.” She told me how my dad agreed, and how she had told him that maybe in my next book I’d share more of my thoughts independent of others … because I was smarter than all of them!
On the way home I was thinking about how empowering it is to trust myself and my thinking more than I did ten years ago. But another thought occurred to me as well: It’s wonderful to know how smart you are. And it’s even more wonderful to know how smart you are not.… More
If you’re single and looking for a partner or just a date, you’ve probably felt impatient, maybe downright frustrated.
I hear from a lot of lonely people who want to know how to find somebody. And before you lump the “lonely” in the category of hard up, some of them are people with presumably attractive options, and even those you imagine to live romanticized lives.
They may not be desperately hitting the pavement, but many of them are feeling anxious. They’re looking to, and asking, friends for help. They’re fueling a perpetual stream of books and dating services. And some of them are seeking advice from people like me.
If you’ve been married for the last 20 years, you might not relate, which means that even if you consider yourself a good friend to some of these lonely singles, you may not have given any serious thought to helping them! Imagine looking for a job for weeks, or months, or even years … without finding one.
You might start to question your value in the marketplace. Eventually, you might get depressed or bitter and give up.
You don’t have to run off and find “the one” for your friends. Just listen long enough to let them catch their breath and get a second wind.… More
“I hate to give up on our relationship, but to stay feels like giving up on my dreams.”
To walk away from what we hoped — and promised — would last forever is one of the most heart-wrenching breaks we can make. It feels as though we’re cutting off a piece of ourselves … and we struggle desperately to decide if it’s right and if it’s necessary.
How do we know?
Ask yourself: What would I do if I weren’t afraid? Will I be better off next week, next month and next year if I stay?
Don’t kid yourself. You don’t really want to feed your fear. And if staying doesn’t serve you, it doesn’t serve your partner either. It’s arrogant to think that a partner needs your pity. He needs love; he doesn’t have to get it from you.
Don’t give up on yourself and don’t give up on your partner, either. If you’re both better off without each other, then give up on the relationship and save yourselves.
Your dreams are a reflection of who you are, or at least they should be. If they’re obsolete, change them. Base them on what you want — not on what somebody else wants for you or what society expects.… More
The only thing that can displace love is fear.
When we are fearless, there is no doubt, no anxiousness, no indignation, no anger because somebody else is scared, no inferiority, no dancing around the truth, NO deception, no superiority, no need to be right, no worry, no lack.
There is only love. And EVERYTHING good is part of love.… More
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