Anything that can be lost can also be replaced, once you know it doesn’t matter. … More

Dear Friends,

It’s easy to talk about self-love, but it’s work to actually practice self-love.

There is no self-love without self-knowledge, which is the quest of a lifetime. You have to know who you are to respect what you’re made of, to respond to your needs, and to hold yourself accountable for being true to your values and your dreams.

Self-love isn’t an escape. It’s a beautiful path to satisfying our purpose. And the reward is commensurate with the work.

Love smiles,… More

In desperate moments, we just want somebody to have dinner with…but in our heart of hearts, we want to be cherished. We want to be completely known and loved by somebody who thinks we’re perfect.

For years I’m sure there were people who thought I was way too picky or idealistic. Some of them gave words to their exasperation, “What do you think you’re going to do with Mr. Perfect when you find him? Isn’t he going to want somebody perfect?”

I wasn’t looking for anybody else’s idea of perfection, though. The 35-year-old on the cover of “Fortune” will likely go for somebody younger…OK, maybe taller and richer, too. But, hey, 35 isn’t perfect for me. And maybe it isn’t perfect for you, either.

There is somebody out there who is perfect for you, though, and you can trust that you are perfect for him (or her), as well.

When Ann Weber, professor of psychology at the University of N.C. at Chapel Hill, first told me, “A five is going to be most happy with a five,” I cringed. Assigning a number — a five (out of 10) — to humans in search of love seemed cold.

But she was right!… More