How do you want to be loved? Can you picture what that looks like? What you look like?

Love yourself that way. Look like that.

That is the only secret to getting the love you want from somebody else!… More

The thing you’re most afraid to let go of is the one thing that stands between you and what you want. You probably have an excess of it … and you probably used it to cope as a child.

It’s your security blanket; and in moments of fear, you want the blanket more than you want anything else. You cling to it like it’s a matter of life and death. It used to be.

You don’t need it anymore! You can tap into your unconscious to identify the blanket; and then you can trade it for what you want.

You can also stop defaulting to the blanket in hundreds of ways in the course of everyday life—at work, in your relationships, making dinner, and deciding what to wear!

You can be free to live the life of your dreams—instead of your unconscious programming! … More

We’ve all tried to put what we hoped a hot prospect would see as our “best foot” forward, while trying to hide our “worst foot.” Predictably, we fall on our face.

If we want an enduring relationship, we have to stand on our own two feet, the truth of who we are, for better or worse. There’s nothing more liberating or satisfying, but that’s a little known — or experienced — fact.

Why? When we fall on our face, instead of getting the lesson, we’re apt to lose some of our confidence … and the more confidence we lose, the more scared we are to gamble with what little we have left!

Thus, we find ourselves trying to have heart-to-heart talks and relationships while shielding our hearts and stumbling over our own two feet. We think that if we can just manage to keep our “flaws” under wraps until after the “I-dos,” everything will be OK.

When it’s not, we can learn from it, or we can reinforce our defenses and keep our distance. Enter the emotionally unavailable.

By hiding the pieces of ourselves that we fear will be rejected, we live a lonely existence, regardless of how visible we make our facade in the process.… More