Dear Friends … Trauma Equals a Lesson

Relationships are always two-sided. And when somebody’s behavior causes me angst, I have something to learn from it.

I’m still reminded of this, but here’s what I know. When I have nothing to learn from an encounter, it’s not stressful. I’m an unruffled observer. It’s only when there’s a lesson in it for me that I feel anger, or judgment, or blame.

If we have no lesson to learn from the trauma, then we don’t experience it as trauma.

We are not at the mercy of anybody else. We always get to choose how we respond. And when we respond from love, we experience no fear, no threat, no drama. That’s telling. It’s also empowering.

We don’t have to bemoan our lessons. They’re not intended to punish us. They’re intended to prepare us for precisely what we want. And when we courageously face the truth and the lesson, that’s what we get. Exactly what we want!

Love smiles,