When we’re learning to come from love rather than fear, which is the work of a lifetime, the lessons keep getting tougher. When I feel negative emotion, like anger, judgment, or exasperation, I know that’s fear. When I’m free of negative emotion, I’m feeling love. Straightforward enough, right?
But what happens when somebody, particularly close to you, blames you for their negative emotion? Let them try, without resorting to fear. Rest in the truth. Not everybody will understand you. Not everybody will want to.
When you shine a light into darkness, some people won’t like it. They won’t like you. They were more comfortable in the dark. It was familiar and convenient. They could pretend that everything was okay, or at least that they were okay. And they could have another glass of wine.
When we acknowledge the light, we have to align with it, deny it (often by fabricating a lie), or use a “Band-Aid.” Otherwise, we have the stress of dissonance, an internal conflict: I should do this, but I’m doing something else, instead.
Be you. Be love. When you mess up, own it. And when somebody else has a self-serving agenda to make you wrong, so that they don’t have to be, remember that love doesn’t have one of those. If they’re open to love and want to talk, talk. But if they’ve already decided how wrong you are without any discussion, walk away in love.
Be kind and unifying; but don’t morph to accommodate somebody else’s fear or ego. Love perseveres AS love.
Let’s do what love does,
Jan's program for the quest of a lifetime.
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