We’re so sensitive to rejection that we get a better view if we step away from it. Sales offers us an ideal window. Maybe you’ve heard about the new guy hired to sell life insurance. He’s offered one dollar for every time somebody turns him down. With nothing to lose and a dollar to gain, our novice fearlessly approaches as many prospects as he can. And, he gets rich—not because he approaches a million prospects; but because he approaches them with no vested interest in their response, and some of them say yes.
Well, not personalizing rejection works equally well for us in relationships. A man (or woman) has nothing to lose by approaching a prospect, and he just might dazzle the woman of his dreams.
Oh, the glory of courage! A man can get the woman he wants! And she’s going to love him for exactly who he is; because when he’s not afraid, he’s authentic. He’s not pretending to be somebody he thinks the woman wants.