If you’re looking for a partner to spend the rest of your life with and frequently find yourself disenchanted, consider raising the standard. I know, somebody else might suggest you lower it. Somebody else might tell you that you’re being too picky. But you wouldn’t really expect that from me, right?
We like the idea of wowing somebody in a relationship. It feels good! There’s an inherent problem in wowing somebody, though. It’s disenchantment. If he’s stunned by your brilliance, are you going to feel stimulated by his . . . for any length of time?
And, is he going to help you reach the next level — or encourage complacency? If he’s amazed by your incredible muscle tone, he might not be the rigorous workout partner you’re looking for. If she’s in awe of your pure heart, she’s not apt to discern a weak moment and help you get back on track.
If somebody is too impressed with who you are, beware of his standards. Consider her ability to keep your attention.
If you want somebody who will help inspire you to reach the next level, don’t look for somebody who’s overly impressed.
Of course, somebody can be wowed, without being wowed across the board. Maybe he’s wowed with your spirit but not your mind. Maybe she’s wowed with your mind but not your body. You might ask yourself what area is most important to you. In what areas, do you really want a partner?
The immediate gratification of wowing somebody is a high you inevitably come down from. On the other hand, if you can wow yourself, you’ve got something to hold onto. And probably you’ll have the guts to go for somebody who’s impressed with you but wouldn’t settle for less!
Here’s to being the best we can be!