We confuse sex with love. And because we can’t get enough sex to satisfy our need for love, we’re hooked on sex and hungry for love. But we keep at it; because infatuation and orgasm do open a window into love. We involuntarily drop our boundaries and connect with somebody. Somebody gets us! And that’s the love we want … but the boundaries automatically go up again.
We’re left wanting, and we Band-aid the ouch. Behind that ouch is the belief that we are somehow unlovable. We have to replace that lie with the truth, in order to heal the wound. Then, rather than hiding parts of who we are for fear of rejection, we can share our nakedness to know authentic love–with sex as a byproduct, rather than a substitute.