Until we have learned to love ourselves unconditionally, we may imagine God to love us only if we meet certain conditions. We may fashion Him after our fears, as a father who gets angry when we stumble, and as one who would punish us from that anger.
But God is not fashioned after our fears. Rather, we are fashioned after His spirit.
God made us lovable. And He gave us the privilege of freewill. We continually choose to be true to fear or to spirit.