We are programmed for consonance …

Anytime we have cognitive dissonance*, we open the door for deception, anger, and bitterness.

And a lack of harmony and joy in me creates a lack of harmony and joy in my relationship. I can’t be untrue to myself and have a healthy relationship. But if I am true to myself, all of my relationships will reflect that.

*Cognitive Dissonance: A disparity between my thoughts and and my actions. I’m compelled to bring my thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, ideas, and actions into alignment. Dissonance between them creates stress–in me and my relationship!