I know jogging is its own reward. And anything good you want to do is its own reward. But if some immediate gratification helps you get the job done and reap the longterm rewards, I say go for it.
You might just be surprised at how sweet mandarin oranges–and other simple rewards–can make your life in the little picture and the BIG picture!… More
We involuntarily drop our boundaries during sex. That’s why it can feel so much like love. We connect! But the boundaries go back up just as quickly as they come down. That’s why sex isn’t enough to maintain the connection.
Intimacy is, though. Intimacy is how much two people know about each other and connect based on what they know. It’s the foundation for connection and authentic love.
The more raw and honest the sharing, the deeper the connection. “Naked” is the only way to be in love (and it takes making love to another level).
Whether you’re single or married, if you want to be loved down to the core, join me on May 19 for a live Saturday workshop: Naked, the only way to be in love.… More
The most valuable assessment we can make is a self-assessment; but it’s easier to look around and assess others. And sometimes we can even do a fair job; the assessing isn’t so hard. It’s acting on the findings.
When we are compelled to act on the findings, we may also be compelled to distort them! And when we’re trying to deceive ourselves about our own stuff, we may also try to point to the worst in others.
It’s a brave new day to honestly make the most valuable assessment
you can make. You’re worth it! And love is enough to help you make it honestly, and act on the findings.
You are love. You’ve got this!… More
The mother of all fears is that you’re not good enough, that you’re not up for the task at hand, that you can’t meet the challenge. You are! You can! You are love!
What would you do if you weren’t afraid? What would you do if you were enough? What would you do if you were love?
You are. Now.… More
I have a dilemma … I love my girlfriend to death, and I’m sure we’ll get married one day, but my little girl (who’s 21 and in school) won’t hear of it. When she was only 9 years old, her mother died … and since then, she’s had me all to herself. My girlfriend has two children of her own, and although my daughter is very confident, I think she’s afraid of being outnumbered and losing me.
Even when children appear to be very secure in a parent’s love, they can be afraid of losing it, especially if they’ve already lost one parent. But rather than think of a father as withdrawing his love, a child might prefer to think of somebody else as taking it.
It’s easier, in this case, for the daughter to fend off the girlfriend as a threat … than to admit to herself and her father that she’s afraid of losing his devotion. Intellectually, the “little girl” knows that her father is there for her, always, but she still feels vulnerable.
The father described her as being “high maintenance”; and because he is always there, she might not realize that she’s capable of low maintenance or of handling some of the maintenance on her own.… More