Relationships paint a poignant picture of this with two butting egos! Give up the ego, and you’ve got a fairytale … it may or may not last forever, but it will always have a happy ending!… More
With each human interaction, we choose to come from love or fear. Love connects and builds relationship. Fear disconnects and builds walls. That doesn’t mean that love always keeps two people together romantically. But love always gives them the courage to communicate honestly and develop intimacy that’s real–even if it means letting go of sex. It’s not the love–or even the breakup–that hurts us. It’s the fear and lack of connection that hurt us–sometimes because we run from intimacy, and sometimes because we cling to a “relationship” that’s empty! … More
We grow up learning to cope, which means defending ourselves and proving ourselves. Then we’re faced with adult responsibilities that somehow interrupt our dreams and our passions. So remembering who we really are can be like trying to remember a dream. But to truly love ourselves AND get the love we long for from somebody else, we must know and share who we actually are!
We can! YOU can! … More
Love has nothing to prove. And neither do you! You’re free to be you. The next time you’re on a date–even if it’s with your spouse–make sure the person you present is the real you. Let them get to know you; that’s an ongoing process. Remember, you can’t feel loved if you’re shielded by shiny armor (that could look like a padded wallet, pretty words, or a fake laugh). I’m not suggesting that you blast anybody with your anger or intolerance. That’s your ego! In fact, any negative emotion, or argument, is birthed by “I’m not good enough.” You are!
When you express your true feelings, your discomfort, and your dreams, you are refreshed and refueled … instead of drained! You are also loved. Because YOU are lovable. Grow into yourself, grow out of your comfort zone. Don’t just live. Thrive!… More
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing. Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. ~ from the Apostle Paul’s first epistle to the Corinthians… More
The most satisfying partnership you can have is not about how much you do for each other. It IS about how much you are wiling to learn from each other! Doing too much for each other can lead to co-dependency and feeling stuck. Instead, challenge each other! You want to be the best you can be. The best partnership you can have is a byproduct of fulfilling that desire!
I taught Sam to put me on his shoulders. He taught me to stand taller!… More