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Despite all our science, many men still talk about what women want as though it’s beyond their comprehension. In light of recent research, maybe men confuse what women want from a long-term relationship with what women want from sex!

Despite all of our political correctness and sexual liberation, maybe society as a whole still makes a more ready distinction between sex and love for men than between sex and love for women.

What women ultimately want in a relationship is simply to be known and loved to the core by a trusted companion (that’s what men ultimately want, as well). What women want from sex, on the other hand, varies from woman to woman, and from one situation to another.

I asked David Buss, noted psychologist and co-author of well-researched “Why Women Have Sex,” to help dispel some of the confusion.

“The takeaway from the book is that women have a complex sexual psychology that cannot be easily summarized by a few things,” says Buss. “Women have sex for dozens or hundreds of reasons, from feeling sorry for a guy to getting revenge on a guy; from consummating a love relationship to scratching a sexual itch; from beating out other females to doing a favor for a friend.… More

When we’re trying to squeeze in what we want most, it’s not because we lack time. It’s because we’ve filled our time with other things. And however good they might be, they are less worthy of our time.

Instead of struggling, we can simply give priority to what we want. We can allocate time for what’s important to us—-before we start filling it up with what comes along. If, for example, my biggest priority this morning is to edit a chapter in my next book, I can do that first … or I can answer the phone three times, and do the laundry that’s piling up, and respond to some e-mail. Granted, those things might need to be done, but why not let them fill in the gaps, when I’m on hold for five minutes (smile) or my brain needs a break.

When we do what’s most critical, we’re energized … and we can keep the momentum going. When we get distracted, we’re apt to feel like we can’t quite manage it all; we fight the current, instead of staying present and flowing.

We can find joy in doing what we want to do. Why not? It is what we want to do.… More

To really love somebody else is to love me, because it’s part of being true to myself. To receive love is also being true to myself. And I can’t do that, without giving love. … More

Your happiness is never about somebody or something else. It’s always about remaining true to yourself regardless of distractions. … More

God’s got us, whether we follow His lead or fight Him every step of the way. He’s not afraid to let us hit bottom, because he knows how the story unfolds. We’re the hero! And, ultimately, we choose love, we find the light. The rest is designed to reveal the hero!

Our resistance may paint the path rocky or rosy; but the light never flickers. We’re going home to love.… More

Go for what you want with your whole heart. Then, the mere going for it is the reward … and the result won’t be discouraging. You will live your dream. … More