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Dear Friends,

We’re never really alone. We are both the observed and the observer.

And when, as the observed, we’re not sure which way is up and which is down, as the observer, we still know.

I think of the observer as my navigator. When I step back and observe, I can see my way more clearly. And I can take heart in how the pieces come together.

Life is an ongoing pilgrimage, though. The challenge we face IS our peace. So, don’t start thinking you’re lost and give up or get stuck.

You have an internal navigator, a Godseed, you can trust.

Love smiles,… More

A relationship is work. And sex is one of those reminders that it’s worth it.

Sex helps us to drop our boundaries and reconnect. It gives us a glimpse of love without all the distractions. It reminds us that our relationship is bigger than the problems and that we’re in them together. It reminds us that we are a superhero. And it gives us a second wind to live again.… More

Remember your favorite fairytale? What can it teach you about yourself, why you’ve done what you’ve done and, perhaps, what you’re still waiting for?

Mine was “Cinderella.” She diligently swept and sang, undeterred and untainted by her mean stepmother and stepsisters. And, she was rewarded … with a prince, no less.

It’s so telling. I spent a big chunk of my life trying to smile while I forged ahead with what I thought was expected of a “good” person.

As it turns out, the sun and the rain come down on the just and the not so just. Darn, I knew that; I grew up with the Bible. And good behavior is its own reward — provided our motivation is pure.

It’s tempting to turn our good behavior into a self-righteous cloak that makes us better than everybody else … only a self-righteous cloak doesn’t really score any “good” points.

I recently watched the movie “Michael” for the first time. It’s about a scratch-where-it-itches angel who ate too much sugar and taught people to take the long way home and laugh more.

Played by John Travolta, Michael probably defies your fairytale images. We don’t just get confused (at a very young age) about what our goodness looks like; we get confused about what goodness in general looks like.… More

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We don’t have to wonder if God has done his part … or if he has given us the ability to do ours.

Let’s stop wondering and do it!… More