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If you want to be in a relationship, but you’re not, there’s a reason. You’re holding on to something that keeps you from attracting and embracing the partner of your dreams.

You can identify what you’re unconsciously clinging to … and let go.

I can help with a single consultation or my “Finding The One” program. Schedule online or text me: 386-299-6256… More

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We are most attracted to those who give us maximum rewards at minimum cost to us. And four of the most compelling sources of reward are:

Proximity: Frequent contact predicts closeness.

Similarity: Shared attitudes, interests, values and experiences are rewarding.

Self-disclosure: Intimate sharing builds trust and allows us to know each other.

Physical attractiveness: We find beauty rewarding.

But the Expectancy-Value Theory says we weigh the value of the reward against our expectation of success in a relationship.

Don’t get scared and underestimate your ability to succeed in the relationship of your dreams. It’s your destiny … that’s MY theory! … More

Sometimes we’re so stuck in an unhealthy relationship or so surrounded by them that we think that’s just how it is. It’s not.

Relationships are intended to be happy! And you can learn how to do them well.

After my second divorce, I got a second wind and resolved to get it right. I started writing about relationships, and my local paper launched my weekly column. It got syndicated, allowing me to pick the brains of leading experts. I did it with zeal, for ten years.

And I’ve been writing and practicing ever since to bring the science, the art, and the spirit of love together.

Whether you’re in a relationship that falls short of your dreams, or you’re still looking for or waiting for “the one,” I can meet you where you are, and we can lay out a path to where you want to go.… More

In desperate moments, we just want somebody to have dinner with…but in our heart of hearts, we want to be cherished. We want to be completely known and loved by somebody who thinks we’re perfect.

For years I’m sure there were people who thought I was way too picky or idealistic. Some of them gave words to their exasperation, “What do you think you’re going to do with Mr. Perfect when you find him? Isn’t he going to want somebody perfect?”

I wasn’t looking for anybody else’s idea of perfection, though. The 35-year-old on the cover of “Fortune” will likely go for somebody younger…OK, maybe taller and richer, too. But, hey, 35 isn’t perfect for me. And maybe it isn’t perfect for you, either.

There is somebody out there who is perfect for you, though, and you can trust that you are perfect for him (or her), as well.

When Ann Weber, professor of psychology at the University of N.C. at Chapel Hill, first told me, “A five is going to be most happy with a five,” I cringed. Assigning a number — a five (out of 10) — to humans in search of love seemed cold.

But she was right!… More