Love has no agenda …

You are somebody’s TEN!

In desperate moments, we just want somebody to have dinner with…but in our heart of hearts, we want to be cherished. We want to be completely known and loved by somebody who thinks we’re perfect.

For years I’m sure there were people who thought I was way too picky or idealistic. Some of them gave words to their exasperation, “What do you think you’re going to do with Mr. Perfect when you find him? Isn’t he going to want somebody perfect?”

I wasn’t looking for anybody else’s idea of perfection, though. The 35-year-old on the cover of “Fortune” will likely go for somebody younger…OK, maybe taller and richer, too. But, hey, 35 isn’t perfect for me. And maybe it isn’t perfect for you, either.

There is somebody out there who is perfect for you, though, and you can trust that you are perfect for him (or her), as well.

When Ann Weber, professor of psychology at the University of N.C. at Chapel Hill, first told me, “A five is going to be most happy with a five,” I cringed. Assigning a number — a five (out of 10) — to humans in search of love seemed cold.

But she was right!… More

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The truth to live by …

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Heart and Mind …

When we look within, we are no longer distracted by the outside. We can feel, and give our mind a chance to grasp, what the heart knows.… More

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Happy Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is for the infatuated, the brokenhearted, the deeply in love, the old and worn, the young and anxious…and, of course, the coupled and the single. It’s for you!

You don’t have to worry about how you fit in, or how it plays out for you. It’s designed for you and you’re in charge of how happy it is or isn’t. Come on, you knew I wouldn’t leave your happiness up to somebody else.
So, what do you want? Where do you want to celebrate? How do you want to celebrate?

Valentine’s Day is for lovers. And you are a lover — a beautiful, incredible lover, if I may say so. You can have whatever you want for Valentine’s Day! In fact, you will have whatever you want. You will choose consciously, or unconsciously, with your beliefs and the actions you take based on those beliefs.

Just for a minute, pretend you have the most magnificent partner, better than you ever hoped or imagined you could get. And you’re looking for a gift that will reflect your sweetheart and your love and gratitude for him (or her).

Stay with me, I realize that pretend isn’t quite the same as real, but you actually have YOU!… More

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Persistence …

Persistence is more than repeating an affirmation or merely hanging on. Persistence is conviction in your words, it’s diligently acting on what you believe, it’s learning to perfect your skill, and it’s choosing to continually upgrade your understanding and practice of love.… More