Love has no agenda …

You have nothing to hide, nothing to be embarrassed about, nothing to be ashamed of. While still a child, you struggled to cope with separation and protect yourself from rejection. You can stop. The only enemy now is your fear.

Your authentic self is more beautiful and powerful than anything you were able to conjure up. Be you … full of joy, and free of pretense, with infinite potential. … More

You may imagine that when you find “the one,” you’ll suddenly be able to love well, because he (or she) will make everything perfect. But you don’t magically love well after finding the one. First, you practice. Then, you attract one who has also practiced.

And the more perfect your love, the more perfect your life.… More

Life is about falling down and learning from it, getting up and starting again. And if that doesn’t sound like fun to you, just watch a baby do it. Better yet, let the baby wrap his little fingers around yours and help him learn to walk. Look into his twinkling eyes and see if you don’t get a new perspective on resilience — joy in the stumbling and peace in the falling. There might be some cries and screams, but they won’t keep him down. With a little coaxing, you can turn his cries into smiles and laughter.

Why not encourage yourself—particularly in relationships when you can’t believe you messed up again? Believe in yourself? Show compassion and understanding for you? Don’t lose sight of the baby, or that pristine goodness, in you, your partner, and in everybody else. It hasn’t gone anywhere.

Yes, you have grown-up problems, and you’ve taken some tough falls. Like me, you’ve probably curled up and sobbed what felt like hopeless sobs. And maybe you’ve filed away enough lousy memories to make any person angry and bitter — any person who wanted to be, that is.

After you’ve aired all of your grievances, the hard knocks and the heartaches, with all the should-haves and if-onlys, ask yourself this question: Do you want to be happy anyway?… More

We always have two choices. We can face the truth or deny it. To face the truth is to choose love. To deny the truth, is to choose fear, to live in fear, and to stay stuck.

As we approach the new year, lets be brave, instead of scared. Let’s trust love. Let’s remember that the truth is always our friend, always the only foundation, the only place to start.

We’re in Love School every day. And the lessons are divinely orchestrated for our higher learning, our highest good. Let’s see the lessons, get the lessons. Let’s do our best to stop repeating the same lessons over and over. We know we’re doing that when we stay in the same unhealthy relationships, or endure the same stress every day and the chronic pain that goes with it. And likewise, we know we’re getting the lessons when we stretch our comfort zone and grow in wisdom.

Our destiny is to blossom into our fullness, the fullness of love. That is our SOLE purpose, our SOUL happy. And it is in that context, that I wish you your happiest new year ever!

I honestly love you,… More

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Life has never felt so real to me. I don’t know how much sense that can make to somebody else, but it makes sense to me; because love is the only thing that’s real. And so much of what I based my life on over the years was less than loving. I don’t mean I was a “bad” person. I was more goodie-two-shoes than bad; but goodie-two-shoes was closer to self-righteous than I realized. And I worked hard for picture-perfect, the house with pretty wallpaper, the muscled boyfriend, the red Mercedes. Nothing was enough.

There isn’t enough of anything else to fill our need for love. I realized this 30 years ago, before I wrote the little book “The Person I Don’t Have Time to Be … Is the Person I Am.” Although I wore designer clothes and had them tailored to fit, I didn’t feel like that person. Well, maybe I did … how was I to know that people who looked like they had it all together could feel like scared little girls!? It was like that cliche, “If the club will accept me, how good can it be?”

Lately, though, it dawns on me that everything in my life seems real … and it’s not because THINGS are better or worse.… More