Love has no agenda …

We decide how to respond …

Intimacy flows deep AND wide …

From a reader: “You said what makes two people compatible is how deeply and broadly they connect. Intuitively, it sounds right to me, but what exactly does it mean? How does it play out in a relationship?”

To connect deeply we have to get naked, not just physically (that’s the easy part), but mentally and emotionally. We can’t skate on the surface chatting about the weather and expect to attract a soul mate.
We have to risk talking about religion and politics, spirituality and values, dreams we still dream, lessons we can’t seem to learn, and fears we still run from. We have to share from a deep place inside of us if we want to connect deeply. As simple as that sounds, it can be difficult just to face some of what’s in there, let alone pull it out and share it with somebody we’re trying to impress.

The irony is that once you’ve looked at what’s in there, you start to realize how amazing you are! That doesn’t mean everybody will connect with you. But whether they connect or not, if you’re trying to determine compatibility, rather than prove it, your mission is accomplished! And there need not be any hurt feelings.… More

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How do we know when it’s our best?

Dear Friends,

Most of my life, “my best” stumped me. Did I EVER really exhaust my effort!?

I realize now that my best isn’t trying my hardest, or practicing until it’s perfect. It’s not getting older or younger, or honing my skill set. It’s not recruiting the best team.

My best is simply what I can do in the present moment without fear.

The partner of your dreams isn’t looking for perfect facial features. Your biggest-client- ever isn’t looking for the most years of experience, your “standing ovation” isn’t waiting for you to fine-tune your performance. Preparation may score points. But it doesn’t create the inexplicable!

To be our ultimate best, we can’t rely on the physical. We have to trust the purity of spirit, that which lives and breathes, but doesn’t die.

Doubt and anxiety don’t leave room for trust. And they don’t allow us to be present. They don’t allow us to do what we can do now, fearlessly.

We want to see, and feel, and be our fearlessly, authentic self … whatever that looks like here and now.

To our best!… More