Love has no agenda …

There is not enough money, or sex, or “more” of anything else to satisfy our need for love. … More

According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, self-actualization is at the top. And well, sex is right at the bottom–a basic, perhaps over-rated, physiological need–along with air, food, water, and sleep.

But at its best, sex is a means of baring your body, mind, and sprit and meeting somebody at the top of Maslow’s mountain. It is a means of making everything that may get in the way disappear while you fulfill, in one simple act, your self-acutalization needs. It may last only for a moment; still it is a moment that you can hold on to.

Excerpt from my first book “Naked Relationships … sharing your authentic self to find the partner of your dreams”… More

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My birthday, my annual swimsuit shot (taken by Sam at Silver Springs yesterday). At 61, I’m still learning to love and be who I am, within and without. Most days I’m trying to give you a picture of the inside. But one must reflect the other. … More

Thank you, Precious Friends, with all my heart, for every expression of birthday love.

I want to acknowledge a couple things. First, I seldom have a tough day. I stumble, but I stay on my feet. And in the process, I know the sweetness of hard work. And sometimes it doesn’t even feel like hard work. It feels more like, yes, I’m doing this! I feel the reward of growth before actually reaping it. That’s not so tough. And that describes my Sunday. I fell asleep crying, but it was a soul-searching, contemplative cry, not a sad cry.

And then there was Monday, my actual birthday. I could anticipate the sweetness of the pain, but I was hurting. And there were moments when the reward didn’t seem worth the pain. I knew it was, intellectually, but there were moments when I didn’t feel up to it.

On Tuesday, yesterday, I made this post: “My capacity for joy can’t exceed my capacity for pain. And so it is with a brave and grateful heart that I face both.”

By last night, I was reveling in love’s peace and joy again, the kind that always follows a good round of pain.

I don’t ever want to forget that pain is inherent in growth, empathy, and compassion.… More

Love IS the magic. And we need not force it. We can’t. We CAN get our ego in love’s way by trying to control and resist.

Let go. Trust love. Trust the magic.

Trust you. … More