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Dear Friends: What to do, besides the usual, about aging …

I have spent decades appreciating the resilience of the human body. I am amazed daily by how it builds muscle, closes wounds, and savors food. And I have, with respect and intention, cared for this body of mine. Who knew how much better I could have done? Smile.

When we are young, aging is difficult to get our arms around; or maybe, we would just rather not, get our arms around it. We inevitably age, though. And as we age, our body demands more attention to stay healthy. So here I am, using the ammunition I have always used, but trying to use it more effectively–not to stay young, but to become whole.

With no conscious effort on our part, our bodies replace billions of cells every day to keep us healthy. But as we age, that process typically slows. That is why our bodies are slower to heal and more prone to chronic issues. What to do:

~ Exercise (both aerobic and resistance)
~ Eat well (nutrient-rich, high antioxidants)
~ Sleep well (7-9 hours)
~ Manage stress
~ Maintain a healthy weight

No surprises here. But let’s engage with more intention. Let’s breathe with purpose and talk to our self out loud.… More

Risk everything or nothing?

“She’s a good person, which is hard to find. And she’s ready, but I’m not sure she’s the one … and I don’t feel like I can afford another divorce. Do I risk everything?”

When you commit to somebody — especially for better or worse, til death do you part — there’s an inherent risk. And it can feel as though you risk everything: Self-esteem, reputation, meaningful relationships, half of what’s left of your estate and even your last chance at happiness.

What do you really risk, though? The court doesn’t generally take what was already yours when you entered the marriage.

The real problem is that sometimes we’re looking to get from a relationship what we haven’t quite been able to get our arms around. So, it may feel as though we’re risking what we don’t truly have yet.

Marriage can offer you a partner in life, a trusted companion. If you’re looking for more than that — i.e., self-esteem, reputation, meaningful relationships, money or happiness — you’re barking up the wrong tree, but you’re not alone!

Those who enter a relationship thinking it will make them happy are disappointed, every time. But if you’re emotionally healthy going in, you’re likely to enjoy a healthy relationship … and remain healthy even if the relationship ends.… More