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The candy dish is familiar — it’s always on the receptionist’s desk and full of root beer barrels. Marie is the receptionist; her dad is dying, and he has been dying for a long time. He loves root beer barrels. Knowing this, his nurse brings him a bag every week, enough to share with his daughter. Her eyes sparkle and water as she explains.

Tradition comforts us and makes us feel grounded — regardless of what’s caving in around us.

Whether it’s pizza on Friday nights or an annual celebration, it reminds us that somebody stands with us. We feel known and appreciated. Celebrating a tradition with somebody says “I love you” or “you’re important to me” … with actions, rather than words.

My husband Sam and I kiss before dinner every night. It reminds us to take a deep breath and really be with each other. We’ve all seen couples eating at the same table, but not with each other.

Traditions remind us to show up! Granted, YOU can get lost in an elaborate tradition. If you keep it simple, you’re more apt to stay present and satisfy its purpose.

Let’s say it’s his birthday: If you eat dinner at your favorite neighborhood restaurant and surprise him with a gift on his pillow, honoring him is the main event.… More

We choose peace by listening to our heart, without being distracted by ego, ours or somebody else’s.… More