Love has no agenda …

Maybe you’ve disappointed yourself by asking for what you wanted. Getting what you want feels different when you have to ask for it. But maybe you got impatient. Maybe you got scared you wouldn’t get it. Maybe you were just trying to be honest.

As soon as we ask, we forfeit the joy we feel when somebody surprises us with exactly what we wanted, without our asking for it. And, perhaps, we also rob somebody of the freedom to give without provocation, and the satisfaction of knowing they didn’t feel obligated. So when do we ask? Does love ever ask?

We ask when our motivation is pure, without expectation. We ask when we can do so without any impatience or fear, and with no agenda lurking behind our honesty. We ask when we can be content with asking, regardless of the result.



Love smiles,… More

Remember when you thought everything in your entire universe would be ideal if he just pledged himself on bended knee? Okay, maybe you never really thought that; but it is a wonderfully romantic sentiment.

And the truth that he wants to be loved simply for himself, apart from what he can do for you or buy you, is absolute. With that caveat, what would you most like for him to give you for Christmas? And what do you want to give him in return?

You both want the same thing! While men and women may have different short-term priorities (men tend to sew their seed widely — it’s a survival thing), ultimately they both want an intimate partner to accept them unconditionally, while knowing all there is to know about them.

You want him to know you and love you down to the core — every little wrinkle and idiosyncrasy — just the way you are. Then, he’s yours for keeps! You don’t have to worry about what he might think or do if he learns that haunting secret. He doesn’t love you in spite of your past; he loves the person you are as a result of it. He’s not about to walk out on you because you gain ten pounds or lose your job.… More

I am so thankful that love is not worried. It is at peace. And that’s what we want to share with others. They don’t need more angst. They need somebody to believe in them.… More

To reach peace and true beauty, we need only align the outside with the inside. … More