Our actions trump our words; so what we do either validates or invalidates what we say. When we speak from love and act from love, we can’t contradict ourselves! … More
Don’t dismiss what you or your partner feels when you’re tired, hungry, or hormonal. It’s okay to cut each other some slack; but distress is a window into the unconscious! So, use what surfaces in distress as an opportunity to heal what hurts … and it won’t hurt anymore! … More
You can only be impatient, aggravated, angry, jealous, or indignant when you’re afraid. And love has nothing to fear! YOU have nothing to fear; and neither does your partner!… More
I will allow my feelings; I will revel in them. I am not afraid of them — however intense. If I’m not sure they are reciprocated, I can ask questions to find out. If the questions go unappreciated or unanswered, I will still have the answers I need. I will still have my own feelings. And I can redirect them, and continue to grow my capacity to feel. … More
My baby wanted beach time with family! It was “his event.” He planned, packed, and grilled. And I learned to trust just a little bit more. He had everything ready down to sliced tomatoes, torn lettuce, sliced cheese, grass-fed ground beef (shaped by him into 5.3-ounce patties), “beach-worthy” hotdogs, buns to butter and toast, Klondike bars on dry ice, etc. I told him we had napkins (with sand castles on them) and disposable plates on-hand; and he let me pack those. I asked him if he needed aluminum foil, a knife, a trash bag. We are a team, and it’s okay for me to be supportive and remind him of what we might need.
But it’s NOT okay for me to be afraid that he might forget something! And he can sense my fear–even if it’s just a tiny bit of fear! And therein lies the true value of our partnership. We both have the same resolve to love fearlessly! And we cut each other very little slack! … More
I got a rejection letter yesterday. Over the years, between agents and publishers, I’ve received hundreds of them. But this one felt more conclusive–for at least three seconds. And then I remembered …
So, in case you need a reminder: God has the last word on you. And he has already said it! YOU ARE GOOD. No ifs, ands, or buts! … More