Especially if you’ve been thinking about your “imperfections” lately, please ask yourself this question: At what point did I lose my perfection?

We think of a newborn baby as perfect. When the baby cries, we still think he’s perfect. He is. When he tries to crawl and can’t, we still think he’s perfect. We see his stumbling as part of what makes him perfect. We delight in his effort and encourage him to grow.

Yet for some reason when we, as adults, stumble in an effort to take the next step or get the next lesson, we tend to point to a personal “imperfection” — or blame it on somebody else. Pointing to “imperfections” reinforces them. Eventually, we come to expect less of ourselves; maybe we even quit trying. And blaming somebody else is no more effective.

Rather than kick yourself while you are down, encourage yourself. Give yourself points for effort. Don’t just do it to be kind. Do it to be fair!

Encourage yourself the way you would encourage your baby, because that might be the best example you have of your ability to love unconditionally. And that’s the only way to really love somebody, including yourself.

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Dear Friends,

I may make living a life of love seem easier than it is. A life of love, after all, is the “fairytale” we yearn for. And if it were easy, everybody would be doing it, right?

The only thing that stands in our way is fear, because fear is the only thing that CAN displace love (there is no fear in love). But letting go of fear is the work of a lifetime.

Still, in those moments when we have no fear, life is as glorious–and as easy–as it gets.

Here’s to growing our moments!

Love and hugs,

Jan … More