Love has no agenda …

A kiss really can make it all better! It says I love you; and we’re bigger than the problem. I’m here. And you’re okay. … More

You’re gritting your teeth and talking under your breath again, wondering if he deliberately provokes you … and if he waits until people are watching to do it.

It’s no coincidence that he’s more irritating when you’re the center of attention. That is, after all, when you’re more consumed with presentation — and what everybody else is thinking! Therein lies the problem.

When it seems as though he’s annoying you, he’s actually just triggering your feelings of insecurity. Without those, there would be no reason to grit your teeth. The mother of all your negative, self-defeating emotion is the belief that you’re not good enough. If you knew beyond all doubt that there was nothing wrong with you, you could drop the pretense and share the real you, without any anxiousness, defensiveness, blame, or qualifiers! And he, too, could be himself, without your making excuses for his behavior, or wondering who noticed!

If that sounds implausible, it’s because you’re playing prisoner to perception.

But what’s real is more sacred and more beautiful than what you’ve conjured up to fit in or win approval. If you don’t believe me, imagine the sleeping face of your first child, or your sweetheart, or the beloved friend who died last year.… More

About seventy percent of communication is nonverbal. What are you saying with your attitude, tone, and body language?

You’re saying what you feel! And people hear what you feel, more than they hear what you say.

If you feel love, then they will! … More

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As we celebrate 13 years of marriage, I want to say how much I love and appreciate Sam. What I most treasure is how well he knows me.

He critiques my writing and tells me how deep I am. Sometimes he even refers to my brilliance. But what he’s really telling me is that I have failed to articulate what I wanted to say, that I haven’t said it in such a way that people can understand it or relate to it. I haven’t made it real or graspable.

He reminds me that he knows what I’m saying, because he knows me. He can fill in all the blanks. Even when I fall short of explaining how I feel, he knows. Sometimes he even helps me to better understand it.

That’s the love we’re looking for. That’s the love we long for. We want to be seen, known, and understood. We want somebody to tune into us and get us!

I am grateful. And with all my heart, all my mind, and my very soul, I love my baby.

Happy Anniversary to us!

And love and smiles to you!… More

We cannot create our greatness. We can only allow it.
Realizing that truth is an epic challenge.

Acting on it is THE challenge. … More